I’m a woman that don’t identify myself as FEMINIST, and there’s nothing wrong with it.

Sexuality is a term that encompass many areas, and we hope to explore this interesting topic in our segment: SEX-uality.

Definition of Sexuality (Sexuality Resource Centre for Parents)


The term “Feminism” had became a sudden viral and trendy term last year, with many US female celebrities talking about it. It was so overhyped that even the essence of what it actually meant became lost in translation for myself personally.

What is Feminism?

Feminism is a range of movements and ideologies that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, cultural, personal, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.

What is Masculism?

Masculism is a movement that advocates for the rights, equality and dignity of the male sex in an egalitarian framework.
 Lack of equal rights applies to both genders

Yes, it is very true that many aspects of our societies are deeply-seeded with patriarchal roots, attitudes, and systems; and women suffer as a result of discrimination and inequality.

Do I support the feminist movement? Yes.

Do still support the masculist movement? Yes.

Can I support both? Yes.

“Why?” you may ask.

Simply because – both genders face discrimination. The only difference is that both face discrimination in different issues, on different levels, and in different amounts depending on many factors and the environment they are in.

I raised up some of the more general disparity faced by either genders in my older article SINGAPORE’S VERSION: THE “HYPE” OVER GENDER EQUALITY AND FEMINISM.

A rose would still be a rose by any other name

Having said that, does it mean I have to put a label to myself to prove that I support the movement / ideology / belief system? Or proudly stand up and say that I’m a feminist, or that I’m a masculist?  NO. It’s the same for our political affiliation, sexual orientation, and religious beliefs. Just because I feel aligned, agree, or accept a certain belief system / movement / ideology, it does not mean I have to put a label on myself to prove that I support it.

Because, I can choose if I want to, or do not want to explicitly identify with any belief or movement. I don’t have to be left or right wing. I don’t have to be pro or anti anything. I can also even identify and associate myself with whatever thing I want without feeling pressured by anyone to put an external label on it.

My ideology is right, which makes your’s wrong

All of us have every right in the first place, to renounce, associate, not associate, identify, or not identify with any labels. We should not have to justify, or even be judged in the first place for not doing so.

It may be perceived as sitting on the fence, having no opinion, or being inconsistent, but f*** it. We are what we want to be. And the issue of:

  1. Everyone wanting everyone to be able to put a label on every aspect of each other’s lives are just forceful and stupid.
  2. Pressuring others to put a label just to prove that they associate with, or support what we believe or think is right – is selfish and narrow-minded.

And when we renounce others who do not identify with anything, or who do not identify with what we identify or associate ourselves with (*unless the person is harming themselves or others), freedom of expression is taken away. People are free to express what they want. We don’t even have to embrace, or agree to their ideology like how they don’t identify with ours. We just have to respect that they are entitled to their views just like us. They have every right to associate, or not associate with whatever belief / ideology / movement, as much as we do.

Improving the rights of both genders

If we are talking solely about the topic of gender, what I associate myself most with, would be an ideology or movement which hopes to improve both the rights of men and women in aspects that either genders are discriminated in, as compared to only focusing on improving the rights of one gender. But, I’m not sure if such a gender movement exist.

Equal rights for all human beings

If we are talking about as a whole, Egalitarianism (a trend of thought that favors equality for all people. It doctrines maintain that all humans are equal in fundamental worth or social status, according to the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy) would be what I find more relevant.

This Egalitarianism train of thought happens to also fit the criteria of those who do not fit into mainstream gender roles, and is inclusive of improving the rights of both genders too. But that is not the point. The point is that the focus is not just on improving the rights of one gender (which at times might neglect the other gender’s needs), but to improve the rights of all humans who lack it.

Because other than the factor of gender, inequality can also encompass a broader picture – social status, financial standing, demographics, culture etc. This ideology where all humans are treated equally, would benefit society as a whole, and not just for one gender.

Yep, so I’m not a label. I’m not feminist. I’m just like any other girl out there with my own views and ideology about the world.

Other SEX-uality posts

Unheard Voices: The memoir of a Singaporean transgender sex worker‏


Were we gender neutral before the labels of male, female, straight, LGBT?


Singapore’s version: The “hype” over gender equality and feminism.”


She’s a slut! She shouldn’t cover herself up so much!

Beautiful Eyes

 Pre-marital sex is unethical and shameful. Virginity is pure virtue.




Gender norms: Are the terms – Femininity and Masculinity socially constructed?


What the hell is the difference btw Sexual – empowerment v.s. objectification?


Are women “asking for it” when we distract males with our short skirts?



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